“What the…!?” “什么… ！ ” ？

There are few things as frustrating as collapsing into your bed in your new apartment, bone tired from moving heavy boxes all day and ready to sleep hard, only to be jolted awake by your new neighbors’ music or video games.有几件事令人沮丧，因为作为倒塌到您的床在您的新公寓，骨累了，从移动沉重的箱子，所有天，并准备睡眠的努力，不仅要发生里氏清醒，由您的新邻居'音乐或视频游戏。 Particularly when it’s no different the next night, or the next, or the next…尤其是当它的没有什么不同未来夜间，或未来，或未来…

Even the most devout Christian can lose it and end up screaming in righteous fury – though to no avail – at the offending neighbors, or just your shared wall or floor.即使是最虔诚的基督徒可能会失去它和最终的惨叫，在正义的愤怒-虽然不得要领-在得罪邻居，或只是您的共享墙壁或地下。 We feel powerless and angry about becoming such a hateful person.我们感到无能为力和愤怒，成为这样一个充满憎恨的人。 In fact, when we don’t get to know our neighbors as fellow humans, if we never see them, they can morph into disembodied evil spirits in our heads, whose every noise and move are laced with malice.事实上，当我们不知道我们的邻国，作为人类的同胞，如果我们再也看不到他们，他们可以变身成disembodied邪灵在我们头上，其每一个噪音和提出的laced与恶意。

Frankly, there’s not much you can do to figure out and avoid noisy neighbors when you’re looking for an apartment beyond trying to visit at night and listening carefully to see if the walls are soundproofed.坦白说，有没有什么你可以做出来，并避免噪音的邻居，当您正在寻找的是公寓之外尝试访问在夜间和细心聆听，看看是否有隔音墙。 Asking the landlord about noise problems will more than likely result in a less than straight answer.要求业主对噪音问题，将以上结果可能在一个不到直接答复。 However, you can do a lot once you move in to feel more at peace in your apartment, all the while putting your faith into practice:不过，您可以做的工作很多，一旦您提出在感受到更多的和平，在您的公寓，所有的同时，把你们的信仰付诸实践：

1. Get to know your neighbors. You don’t have to be Mr. Rogers or the newest member of Desperate Housewives to get to know your neighbors. 1 。结识你的邻居，你不一定要罗杰斯先生或最新的成员绝望的主妇为了结识你的邻居。 Just being on a “smile and nod” basis with your neighbors goes a long way.只是一个“微笑和点头”的基础上，与您的邻居去了漫长的道路。 You’re both much more likely to look out for each other in small and big ways (picking up stray mail, calling in potential gas leaks, etc).您都更容易看出来对方在小和大的方法（落杂散的电子邮件，要求在潜在的气体泄漏等） 。 If you are used to smiling at your neighbor and maybe even saying “hi,” it’s then much easier to progress to asking about a building issue (“Is it true they’re going to be renovating the basement next week?”) and much easier to have a calm, rational conversation about noise or other problems— even at 4 am, when he’s drunk or high.如果你是用微笑在你的邻居，甚至说“嗨” ，它的那么容易得多的进展，要求有关建设问题（ “是否属实，他们要去加以翻新地下室下周？ ” ）和容易得多有一个冷静，理性的交谈约噪音或其他问题-甚至在上午4时，当他的酒醉或高。 And you might find that your neighbor’s laugh no longer seems maniacal so much as vivacious, and that you’re happy for her because you know she needs the joy in her life.和您可能会发现你的邻居的笑，似乎不再疯狂了这么多，作为活泼，和你很高兴，为她，因为你知道她需要的喜悦，在她的生命。

You shouldn’t expect to become best friends with your neighbors.你不应该期望成为最好的朋友与你的邻居。 People in apartment buildings usually don’t want to live next to their best friends, but they do like to be on good terms with their neighbors.人在公寓大楼，通常不想住在明年他们最好的朋友，但他们希望得到良好的条件与他们的邻居。 Sort of like an office environment, but hopefully less stressful and without the awful lighting!有点像一个办公环境，但希望少的压力，没有可怕的照明！

Tips: Bolder people often knock on their neighbors’ doors on the day they move in. If you want to try this, make up an excuse for knocking beyond introducing yourself, like asking them to please let you know if you’re being too loud while you move in. If you’re a shy person or just conscientious about not invading other people’s space, then slip a card under your neighbors’ doors inviting them to your housewarming party. 提示：大胆的人往往敲门，他们的邻居门的一天，他们搬进去，如果您想尝试这一点，作出了一个借口，敲开超出了介绍自己，想要求他们请让你知道如果您正在太大而你搬进如果您是一位害羞的人或只是不自觉地入侵其他人的空间，然后支路卡下，您的邻居的门，邀请他们到您的housewarming党。 Even if they don’t attend, they’ll probably be flattered to have been invited, and be much more willing to deal with you in a respectful manner.即使他们没有出席，他们将可能会受宠若惊，以已被邀请，并更愿意处理与你在一个尊重的态度。

2. 2 。 Start a building e-mail list . 启动建设的电子邮件名单 。 One of the best ways to create a good overall environment in your building is to start an e-mail list.最好的方法之一，以创造一个良好的整体环境，在您的建设，是启动一个电子邮件名单。 An e-mail list can be a good way for neighbors, especially younger ones, to trouble-shoot common problems or plan building events, or just share tips (eg, washing machine is eating quarters).一个电子邮件列表可以是一个好办法，为邻国，尤其是年轻的，故障诊断的共同问题或计划建设活动，或者只是分享提示（例如，洗衣机是饮食宿舍） 。

Tips: Set up a list on Google or Yahoo (or your preferred service) and put cards underneath your neighbors’ doors asking them to join. 提示：成立一个名单上Google或Yahoo （或您的首选服务）和卡下，把您的邻居的门，要求他们加入。 Be sure to explain what it is, why they might want to use it, and what won’t be allowed (for example, you may want to avoid using it to share grievances about the landlord, since it’s likely she’ll see a copy and try to shut it down if you distribute it around the building).一定要解释它是什么，为什么他们可能想使用它，会有什么不容许（例如，您可能希望避免使用它来分享不满房东，因为它的可能，她会看到一份拷贝，并尝试将它关闭，如果您分发的建筑周围的） 。 Once it’s set up and you have some users, start using it right away so that the idea will stick.一旦它的成立和你有一些用户，开始使用它的权利以外，使这一想法会坚持。

Now that you have an e-mail list, it’ll be much easier to:现在，您已经有了一个电子邮件列表，它会容易得多：

• Throw a building potluck.丢一建设potluck 。
• Organize a trick-or-treat set up in front of the building on Halloween.组织的伎俩-或-对待设立在大楼前对万圣节。
• Plan, plant and maintain a common tree, flowers or garden.计划，厂房及维持一个共同的树木，花卉或花园。

You don’t need a building e-mail list to do any of these things, but it certainly helps.你不需要建设电子邮件名单做任何这些东西，但它肯定有帮助。 If you don’t have an e-mail list, use cards and flyers around the building or try the old knock-on-the-door technique to get your neighbors involved.如果您没有一个电子邮件列表，使用卡和传单，周围的建筑物或尝试旧的连锁反应，对- -门技术，让您的邻居参与。 Building events or tools that promote civil interaction and helps create a universal expectation that people will treat each other well, even when we’re behind our apartment walls.建设活动或工具，促进民间的互动，有助于建立一个普遍的期望，人们将以诚相待，以及其他，甚至当我们的背后我们的公寓墙壁。 The change in the ethos of the apartment building will impact even those who choose to not participate directly.的变化，在校风公寓大楼会影响甚至那些谁选择不直接参与。

Please note that you don’t have to be new to your building in order to do any of the suggestions above.请注意，您不一定要新，以您的建设，以做任何的上述建议。 It’s never too late to start getting to know your neighbors!它的未为晚也开始渐渐了解了你的邻居！

Finally, check out our guide to Neighborly Home Design at最后，瞧瞧我们的指南睦邻首页设计 neighborsproject.org , which includes more ideas and tips ranging from simple to advanced projects towards making your building more neighborly. ，其中包括更多的思路和提示不等，从简单到先进的项目，使您的兴建更多的睦邻。

Author Bio: : Kit Hodge is the CEO of Neighbors Project, a 501c3 non-profit that inspires and trains members of the new urban generation to connect with their neighbors through projects that improve the neighborhood for everyone. 作者生物： ：试剂盒Hodge的是行政总裁的邻居项目， 501c3非营利性，激发和火车的成员对新的城市一代连接与邻国通过的项目，改善居委会为大家。 She has also successfully coaxed her downstairs neighbor to turn down his music at 4 am when he was dead drunk.她还成功地coaxed她在楼下的邻居把他的音乐上午4时，当他死了喝醉了。

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